Du-bae: "Should we wait for true love or try and find it?"

Our oversharing, anonymous dating columnist details her romantic escapades. This week, she vows to not give up on dating - and explains why you shouldn't either
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Du-bae: "Should we wait for true love or try and find it?"

Happy Valentine’s Day, or Single Awareness Day, however you wish to acknowledge it. This charming 24 hours, which is by no means a marketing ploy or excuse for content couples to boast about their #relationshipgoals, has got me thinking about my own single status.

Earlier this week I realised I wasn't putting any effort into dating in Dubai, and that it was falling lower and lower down my priority list as work, exercise and seeing friends filled all diary space. My reasons for allowing this, I suppose, were because I felt like giving up on it after a string of failed romances last year. I was also following the mantra: 'the right person will come along when you least expect it.'

Spoiler alert: This isn't true. The right person isn’t going to ‘come along’ to my sky-high apartment and discover me (that’s the Deliveroo guy). No, if I want to meet someone – be it for a date or potential relationship – I need to physically leave the tower. Once I had come to terms with this, I picked a new dating mantra. Actually, I stole my work one: Hard work always pays off. Basically, if you put in long hours at the office and prove yourself your boss promotes you. If you work hard at finding love, you'll reap the rewards (aka a real relationship).

And so, I set up a first date, and as soon I was on it, I was glad. Dating is an enlivening experience. Even if you can tell the person you are on a date with isn’t a good match for you, it’s still super interesting to hear their story: where they grew up, their interests, ambitions. There are billions of people in the world, why not try and meet as many as possible?

My conclusion, therefore, is yes, you should try and find love. It’s absolutely normal and acceptable to want to take a hiatus from dating for a while if you wish. But when you feel in a good place in your life, make dating a priority and you’ll reap the rewards of a proactive approach (I’m still waiting on that promotion, though).

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