Mochi founder Ayah Tabari bravely shares her IVF journey and her struggle with unexplained infertility

Ayah tells Grazia, “It’s unbelievable how talking about your own experience can really help so many people”
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Mochi founder Ayah Tabari bravely shares her IVF journey and her struggle with unexplained infertility

Ayah Tabari – head thrown back in a throaty laugh, with the wind in her hair, and swathes of rainbow-stitched fabric fluttering in the breeze – is a familiar sight to her Instagram followers. However, many were unaware of her “struggle of unexplained fertility” until she announced her IVF pregnancy last week in the hope of reassuring women “we are in this together.”

In an emotional post on Instagram, she revealed that when she couldn’t conceive naturally, in addition to starting IVF treatment, she made a decision to transform her lifestyle. “Being a full-time, dedicated entrepreneur, I focused on Mochi – my true love, my first child, my soulmate. But after four years, I started losing control of my personal life, I neglected my health, my wellbeing and had a fear of missing out. The anxiety and crazy stress made me realise I needed to do something because I had no control.” Ayah continues, “Research, yoga retreats, sun, healthy eating and a lot of meditation began and soon enough I started feeling a little like myself again.”

The Mochi Founder credits her husband and her team for keeping her going throughout the IVF process. “You can only stay positive if you surround yourself with positive people and most importantly work on yourself – self-love, meditation, eating well. Being in this industry, you can sometimes neglect yourself because you get into this cycle of doing too much. I just slowed down and remembered what was important.” She adds, “You can’t control your hormones but you can control how you react to them.”

Ayah tells Grazia, “I think some women tend to shy away from the conversation because it is such a personal topic or from being embarrassed or ashamed because a woman always wants show the best version of herself and mask what she’s really going through.” She explains, “When I was going through the process, all I wanted was to talk about it, and share my experience as I wasn’t sure what to feel, so sharing my story was to help others and to allow them to have someone to talk to through their journey.”

Speaking from the heart paid off with her DMs deluged with messages of support. “It was so amazing to hear from so many women who either have been through IVF or going through IVF and sharing these experiences – it builds such an amazing, honest and real community that I could have not imagined. There were some who have done IVF over 12 times and are still struggling, IVF children who just reached out to say hello, and many more. It’s unbelievable how talking about your own experience can really help so many people struggling.”

Ayah’s message to Grazia readers on their own pregnancy journeys? “Stay calm, don’t give up, be positive and always read about all the positive cases of IVF and not the ones that didn’t work - avoid these at all costs! So if it doesn’t work this time, it’s just not your time, be patient and don’t overthink it. It will work when your time comes, when your stars align.”

Photos: Instagram @allthingsmochi